Sell the porn. You'll probably get at least several hundred dollars for your collection. Use the money to see a dermatologist. If they prescribe generic medication it shouldn't be that expensive.

Don't bother with a hairpiece. The good ones cost a lot of money and the cheap ones are worse than no hair at all. If you've lost that much hair, either get a buzz cut or just go for it and shave your head. That's what a lot of guys do. It's considered very stylish and it's more "macho" than a balding head.

Check with your county Mental Health Mental Retardation (MHMR) department. They can probably recommend county programs where you can get therapy at a low cost. Look into free support groups. You seem kind of depressed. Look for meetings of the DBSA - Depression and Bi-Polar Support Alliance - in your area. Remember there is a 12 step program for pornography addiction called Recoveries Anonymous. Check out their website. See if they have meetings in your area. If they don't have meetings in your area, see if Sex Addicts Anonymous does.

If you feel that your job is a dead end, think about where you would like to be career wise in 2 years, 5 years, 10 years. Figure out what you have to do to get there. Break it down into steps. Do you want to move into management where you're at? What would it take to make that happen? What's the career path? Do you need to go back to school to get ahead? Find out what's available through your local community college - they're cheaper. Look into getting a student loan. Sure, you'll have some debt when you finish school, but if it helps you to grow in your career it will pay for itself. Don't say that you're too old. My mother went back to college when she was 36 with 3 kids. She got her degree when she was 40. She got her master's degree when she was 45.

 

Here is my take

I don't want to sell my porn. I love my porn! Porn is a beautiful art form. :excited: It has been around since the dawn of time. It's also one of the few things made for and enjoyed by men that the feminists have been unable to take away from us. Some of the other things are hunting, fishing, bars, strip clubs, prostitutes, barbecues, sports, beer and cheerleaders. Men love to watch chearleaders shake their pom poms. I will seek medical attention for my skin condition after I pay off some of my debts. I agree with you about the hair piece. They are costly. They also have some drawbacks. I have read some horror stories on the internet about hair pieces. However, I will not be shaving my head. It just wouldn't be me. Finally, I am not crazy or retarded as you and some other people here seem to think. I don't need therapy to boost my self esteem. I need a woman! I need to be loved. And yes, I need some pussy. That is what will boost my self esteem. That may offend some of you ladies, but you know I'm right!

 

Funny.

"The Gentleman" ... how exactly? 38 and never gave pleasure to a woman.
"true romantic" ... bullshit clearly. If you had chance to be romantic you would atleast pull of a one night stand or a kiss.
"proud owner of a penis" picture on profile ... not exactly gentleman like and why you proud if you never used it for what its intended for?

You will soon be the 40yo Virgin. Then 50yo etc.

You need to get your priorities right. You have lived up until this point just wanking off to porn magazines. You dont NEED a woman. You can always improve on your friendships etc. including with women but there is no need you to have someone for the sake of it. There is being shy but you clearly don't long for a woman so its pointless trying to advise you how to get someone when its unlikely to work out.

 

I advise reading the thread first.

 

The TheGentleman has wound you all up like a clock.

Very articulate and formal for someone with a dead-end job, ugly, a skin condition and apparantly no future. Folk, such as this "gentleman" has described himself, I imagine would have been this way since Childhood, ridiculed, bullied and hidden from ideal education and knowledge.

This "Gentleman" I'm sorry does not sound very uneducated and seems very knowledgeable.

Sir! If your plight is genuine you should seek professional psychiatric advice. Pretenders on a porn site are not going to help you.

If you are however taking the piss. You are fucking good at it!

There! I said it!

Cheers! :rose:

 

Would you like to explain what you mean? There is the difference between being a male who hasn't come out thus deemed to like women and actively being attracted to them and wanting a relationship.

 

He states multiple times that he wants a relationship with women.

 

Get yourself into 1-hour ballroom dance classes, several times a week. You will start as a total klutz. You find a large class where they rotate you among women so you get different partners. Just be sure you are clean, well shaven, dressed okay, wear shoes with smooth bottoms so they will glide on the floor. The women WILL talk to you. Some of them will possibly take you aside to show you how to do the steps. I don't care if you look like Godzilla, there will be women there who don't notice it. I go to dance classes where there is not so much as one handsome guy.

And when you get some expertise and are going to several dance classes, see if you can get a date with one of them to go to another class with you or meet you there.

Folk dancing and square dancing are another outlet, and they give you some good exercise.

And phase out of your porn collection. Women like to be liked for who they are.

 

How long has this thread been working (not bothering to look back, I posted over a week ago)

Seriously? ! ? Art form my hairy ass! . . It has become a C-R-U-T-C-H.

The cave man that scribbled that shit at the 'beginning of time' either did what he scribbled or he died without offspring.

You are making excuses not to get off the bench/chair/corner and join the game, because that is all it is.

I know I am NOT the most experienced person here but I have made a few circuits around the block. In May '04 I spent 10 days in Brazil, 2 of them traveling. During those eight days I was with fifteen different women, four of them twice, one five times and another seven. Do the math on that. That was only my birthday present to myself. I might possibly know what I am talking about.

Seriously, this shit AIN'T that hard man! Kick the porn crutch, and do something.

 

Yes, but anyone can claim anything. Deep inside he isn't interested in a relationship. It is natural. Girls do better at school as they focus on the work, the boys just want to chat with the girls. Its in their human nature and this continues past graduation far into life. Most people know that geeky kinda guy, who however much he tries with girls he gets knock backs or the odd girl who feels pity for him - but no matter how many times he gets knock backs, even for periods of time that he is down hearted and don't try for a while, sooner or later he picks himself up and searches for a girl again. This guy doesn't.

Whatever happened in the past, he has built up a dependency on a big porn stash. Even if he did manage to get a relationship it will be stretched beyond all proportions as he would prefer masturbating to porn than sex - he is clearly addicted to it and has long become routine. I'd take my hat off to him if he could kick the habit and significantly reduce it but in reality, it never worked out for him (being with a woman) so logically he has built up a life filling the void with other stuff. Masturbation can be overcome and displaced with sex but the little porno fantasy world cannot.

Its all about human survival. He needs the asexual element - for whatever reason he couldn't get involved with women, so instead he has found a way where masturbation isn't so depressing (such as other guys half his age feel while being virgin) which is to this porn, however, I can't see any female accepting him now, because most find it vile for a guy to have a few magazines etc. but he has an entire collection.

Furthermore, he calls himself a gentleman... but anyone having a significant porno stash over numerous years have lost all respect for women and will develop a way of thinking of women being seen in a bad light and more of an item - because most of the porn focuses on it... building the "collection" is worshipping the derogative messages.

(If this is genuine and not a joke after all)

 

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You've gotten a lot of good advice here which you are unwilling to take. Continue your love affair with porn. It will never love you back. You will die alone, a virgin, unless of course you spend a few bucks and hire a whore. You think all women are whores anyway, so why not? You are the furthest thing from a gentleman.

 

I must correct you

I mean no disrespect, but I must correct you. I don't think that all women are whores. To the contrary, I have a lot of respect for women. Why do you think I fear them so much? If I didn't respect them, I wouldn't care what they thought of me. Now would I? I know that most women are not whores. They are very respectable, intelligent and accomplished people. Women are now outperforming men in academia. They are also making significant inroads in our society. The UK had a female Prime Minister. Her name was Margaret Thatcher. Germany currently has a female Chancellor. Her name is Angela Merkel. They are both great women and I respect them. There has even been talk of a female U.S. President. It's only a matter of time before women surpass men in the political and social hierarchy of western civilization. I can assure you, that fact is not lost on me. I just think that I'm not worthy of their love or even friendship. When a woman treats me poorly, I feel as if I somehow deserve it. I don't feel angry, just sad. I don't blame the women for the poor treatment. I blame myself for being such a fuck up. Looking at porn is the only way that I feel close to women. It opens a window to a world I feel that I will never see in person. A world of intimacy and love. Please ladies, don't judge me so harshly. I'm just a lonely man.

 

ffs ... even Elton John is getting laid:excited:
Julia Roberts married Lyle Lovett
look at Prince Charles he married a Dog as well..ffs...
Marry a Filipino :-?

 

Porn is paper, and clicks. It isn't a window to anything it is a fuck-fantasy, not a window, art form or any other crutch.

 

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Charming. You really are the stereotypical braindead American bitch.

 

i'll preempt a similiar comment that you may make directed at me. i'm an immigrant i suppose you might say and i voted no hope in the near term for him. recent posts by him show him to be a self centered pussy who blames everyone else and accepts no responsbility.

if he stays with that attitude then rosy palm and her 5 fingers will be only friendly sex partners he'll ever have. don't bother responding to me until you read the dickhead's latests posts.

 

Thank you so much for your consideration in pre-empting a comment I 'may' make!

But please, I beg you tell me: what precedent would I have for saying such a thing to you? Where in this thread have you behaved in a manner that would, in your eyes, make you at risk of a derogatory comment? Why do you feel that you have to 'pre-empt' me at all?

 

the last female poster called him a loser. i did the same albeit in a different fashion. i preempted so that you would look into it rather than just writing me off as a braindead bitch for calling him that.

no offense was intended. i don't know that you would have done that but took the precaution anyway.